Anyway, thank you again.

Also, would you mind if I linked your entry to my livejournal to share your words of clarity with my friends?

Therefore, rapists deserve no sympathy. They failed the big exam of life. They destroy human lives, *even when the victim comes out alive*. Rape is not “having sex that is not so nice”. Rape is not “a bad time you’ll get over within a couple of weeks”. Rape is a brutal torture: mentally and physically. Some women are never able to able coitus in a normal way. Others can’t have children because of the “incident”. That are the physical scars. Emotional scars vary from locking themselves in house for years to not being able to bring a tampon into their vagina because this reminds them of the penetration of rape. We never here people say these things fla out, now do we? Well, it’s about time we did. I pity rape victims. I pity to see wonderful people completely destroyed just because some deluted mind. Rapists rape because they *can*. Take away they’re toy and they’re defenseless.

The wound of rape never completely heals. It bleeds. Men know very well what they are doing when they start raping a girl. No matter if they were drugged, had a bad relationship with their mother or if they themselves were a victim of rape before- a human keeps his or her self responsibility and shoving that responsiblity in the shoes of rape victims is lower then low. She said *no*. That’s all there is to it.

All we have to do now, is find ways to keep incompetent, disturbed males *in place*, for they obviously don’t know how to manage in this world. Society should stop treating rapists as the run-away, not-to-be-stopped horse. By releasing a rapist, our law system betrays all of us. Victims of rape also include the actual rape victim’s husband or boyfriend and her relatives. Imagine it was your sister, your wife, your daughter? All those people will *not* get the same Mary, Susan, Angie, etc. back. They won’t ever.

A life for a life. That’s my philosophy. You’ve raped someone? Fine. Have a nice life in prison! That’s the only rightful punishment for any rapist. People still fail to see that every rape is in fact a human rights case.

I still believe in a world without rape. Or at least a world in which rape is not such a common crime against women. I we want the world to change, we women need to work together. Our individuality has always hindered us in making progress on a politic and social scale. We need men like the autor along the way- men who realize there is absolutely no advantage or need to rape. *Men who place themselves above rape.*
For there’s one thing we tend to forget: rapists do not lower their victims. They mainly lower themselves below any respectful standard. It’s not something to be proud of- destroying people just because you can. In fact, you just proved you missed the point of the social community life of human beings completely.

I wish I had something better to add.

I disagree, though, with your attacks on those questioning her judgement. That’s not unfair or sexist. Just because it’s normal not to steal I’m not going to leave my brand new car in a bad neighborhood at night with the keys in the ignition. If I did that and you questioned my judgement, you’re not condoning stealing.

Two things:
1) I am not a car. A man who rapes me is not stealing something. The the two acts are not similar, and while it might seem like an adequate anology, it is not: because no one can ever decide what the rape victim equivalent of “leaving your keys in your car” is.

I realize that, to someone who doesn’t have to spend their life dealing with the spectre of rape, it seems very simple. But it is not. By simply being a woman you’re “leaving your keys in your car.” That’s basically what it comes down to, if you’re trying to use that argument.

2) It is both unfair and sexist to question someone’s judgement after they’ve been raped. I mean, for christ’s sake, you’re talking about A RAPE VICTIM, not someone who just had their lunch stolen. I assure you that in even the most supportive of settings a rape victim will blame herself and “question her judgement” over and over again in her own mind. Why make it worse? Furthermore, who the fuck does anyone who thinks that they are in a position to “question” a rape victim’s judgement think they are? The whole idea that you are somehow morally and intellectually superior enough to make judgements about a woman’s behaviour, particularly in a situation involving rape, smacks of sexism.

I’ve never been able to understand why men don’t rise up in anger at the people who suggest that you are all fundamentally rapists

Rise: We do, depending on the suggestor’s genitalia. Look at how Andrea Dworkin was pilloried after Robin Morgan said it.

I can’t believe I’ve taken the “she was asking for it” argument as only a slam against women for all these years, but you’re right; it’s equally insulting for men.